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Judah Frankel
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Full Name: Judah Frankel
Date of Death: March 20, 2020
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  1. Stacie Rottenstreich says:

    Judy and Mark, There are no words I can say to help you ease your pain. I wish there were. I feel privileged to have known Yehuda and to have heard him share דברי תורה. The only thing I can assure you with total certainty is that Yehuda will forever be a part of your family. He will be known and and cherished by each member of your family and each of his friends. Hashem will give you strength to get through the days and weeks that follow. And with time the stabbing and searing pain will ease and memories of wonderful times will come back. I wish you and your family nechama from the bottom of my heart. I’d like to imagine two Hillcrest men learning together in שמים. I am always here for you. Stacie

  2. Anonymous says:

    Thinking of you no words to express our sympath המקום ינחם אתכם the Greenspans

  3. molly ratner says:

    Few words can comfort at a time like this….Very very sad..
    Hamakom yinachem etchem b’toch shaar aveilei Tzion v’Yirushalayim.
    Molly and Mutty Ratner

  4. Anonymous says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,
    We are so sorry for your loss. Our condolences and sympathies.
    Hamakom Yinachem Etchem Betoch Shar Aveli Tzion V’Yersushalyim.
    So sorry,
    Jonathan and Gela Horn and Family

    • Judy gottlieb says:

      This is judy grossman-gottlieb.judy, you know me from YHSQ. To you and your husband and family,I am so very sorry for your huge loss.i am thinking of you . Hamakom yenachem eschem bsoch shaar evley tzion vyerushalayim.

  5. Elaine and Yonah Rockoff says:

    Dear Mark and Judy and family,there are no words that we can offer as comfort right now. We are thinking of you.
    ,המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים
    Elaine and Yonah Rockoff

  6. Josh Dredze says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. May Yehuda’s memory be a blessing for us all.

    Josh

  7. Rachel & Ron Levovitz says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,

    We are so sorry for your loss and send our heartfelt condolences. May Hashem grant you comfort and guidance through this most difficult time.
    HaMakom Yenachem Etchem B’Toch Sha’ar Avlei Tzion Yerushalayim. May you know of no more sorrow.

    Rachel & Ron Levovitz and family

  8. Dovi Bergman says:

    Dear Frankel family,
    This news is simply devastating! I can’t begin to imagine what you are going through right now. I can only offer my thoughts and prayers.

  9. Daniel Weiss says:

    Yehuda was a real inspiration to all who new him. yehi Zichro boruch.

  10. Ralph Frankel says:

    At the request of my dear brother Mark, I am posting this here:

    ***********

    How is a person able to be maspid his own nephew who died at such a young age at the prime of his life? The burden is too great, especially when one feels the loss like losing a son. I am not able to cry on my brother’s shoulders or give him a hug. This morning, I did not mention Yehuda’s name in רפאנו for the first time in almost three years, and I broke down and cried like a baby. I loved Yehuda dearly. Over the years we had the pleasure of his company for Shabbos, one on one, when we really got to know him. He was so incredibly humble and able to hide his greatness from most people, but we were able to see through him. Perhaps his greatest strength was also his greatest weakness – his lack of ability to accept his own greatness and sense of accomplishment. Yehuda was a צדיק נסתר who left the world on his terms – as a צדיק נסתר without the benefit of meaningful hespedim and fanfare.

    How does one deal with a person that dies at the age of 38 and in some ways never really experienced life. What do Chazal say about it? We have a precedent when Nadav and Avihu died suddenly and Aharon’s response was “וידם אהרן”. Aharon understood that there was a גזירה מן שמים that his sons had to die – and he accepted their fate with great אמונה and בטחון. Watching Mark and Judy and Yehuda these past three years was a lesson in “וידם אהרן” – they accepted their fate and only increased their עבודת השם. Moshe comforted Aharon when his sons died: הוא אשר דבר ה’ לאמר בקרובי אקדש ועל כל העם אכבד – Nadav and Avihu’s deaths brought about a tremendous קידוש השם –Hashem only sanctifies His name through those that are close to him. In Nadav and Avihu’s case, the Meshech Chachma explains that there was a need to teach klal Yisrael that there was still midas ha-din in the world – יש דין ויש דיין – because Hashem forgave them afteר the חטא העגל, and there was a tendency to assume that Hashem never invokes judgment, he forgives all sins. The deaths of Nadav and Avihu taught klal Yisrael that even for a small sin, an עבירה קלה, there is judgment. We cannot begin to understand why Yehuda got sick and why Hashem chose him. But the lesson of “בקרובי אקדש” must not be lost on us. And only those who were real “קרובים” of Yehuda, who knew him intimately, knew why he was so special.

    It is not a coincidence that Yehuda had to die during the spread of the corona virus. We are all in lockdown and in self-imposed quarantines. Mark and Judy will be sitting shiva apart from Yair and apart from Yonatan. People will not be allowed to visit. There will be no hespedim – and no opportunity to tell the world who Yehuda Frankel was, but tell them we must. Judy told me a few days that Hashem obviously wants to teach the world and klal Yisrael a lesson with this epidemic. There are many lessons to learn. We learned that young couples can get married with a small group of people and be just as happy. The extra $100,000 would be better spent on poor people. We learned that the sanctity of klal Yisrael is the Jewish home – the torah, the chesed, the values, the יראת שמים – in short, the house in which Mark and Judy raised their children and the house where Yehuda lived his entire life. And we learned that we cannot control our destiny, we are all כחומר ביד היוצר, כאבן ביד המסתת, כגרזן ביד החרש – we are just pawns in Hashem’s hands and He controls the world and we control nothing. Anyone who knew Yehuda, knew that he already had the world figured out. His values were true Torah values and everything else was narishkeit. The only thing that impressed him was character – were you a good person, were you honest, were you a caring person, were you considerate of others and kind to others.

    Almost two and half years ago, after Yehuda’s first surgery and initial recovery, he was doing quite well. We invited him to join us for Yom Kipur and experience a Modzhitz davening – something that was totally foreign to him. We wanted him to experience new things, especially not knowing what his future held. To our surprise, he accepted the offer. While I don’t think we made a chasid out of him, Yehuda died a true chasid. To understand what I mean by that comment, you need to understand what it means to be a chasid, Normally, when we refer to chasidus, we have a particular lifestyle and mode of attire in mind. But this is not the meaning that the Rishonim use. The Rambam, in the Yad HaChazaka, in his Perush Mishnayos, and Shmoneh Perakim, refers to a chasid as one who does לפנים משורת הדין – beyond the call of duty. Rabeinu Bechaya, the Sefer HaChinuch and others use this definition as well. Except it is not clear to us what is meant by this term. The Gemara uses this term in cases where one waives his right to a claim that he is legally entitled to. Usually it is financial in nature. Yehuda was meticulous in his financial dealings and the thought of earning a penny at someone else’s expense was inconceivable to him. The same goes for misreporting taxes or cheating the government. But that is only a partial meaning of the term.

    The Mishna in Avos says: לא עם הארץ חסיד. The simple meaning is that one who is ignorant is incapable of properly observing the mitzvos, due to his lack of knowledge. The Maharal offers a different explanation: an עם הארץ is a material person, a pleasure seeker. Such a person is not capable of being a chasid, of doing kindness for others and influencing others. And so, I will focus on this Maharal and discuss what Yehuda meant to us. As a משפיע – just knowing him, being with him and seeing him in action made everyone who interacted with him a better person. You could not say לשון הרע to Yehuda, or in his presence – aside from being berated, or receiving a surprising look from him, he was not capable of seeing anything but the good in people. He never made a nasty, sarcastic comment even in jest at someone’s expense. He never got angry or lost his temper. And he was extremely close to his family and his extended family. A loving son, and brother, a great uncle to Rachelle’s, Yonatan’s and Yair’s children, a wonderful cousin and nephew. And last but not least, he was the most devoted and loving grandson ever. My mother had a very special love for him, and I think it would be fair to say, that it went beyond the other grandchildren. Yehuda organized a schedule so that my mother should never have to spend a Shabbos by herself. He undertook this project after being operated on with a brain tumor. He would give up spending Purim with his parents or siblings and fly to Toronto and spend Purim with my mother. Yehuda was not the life of the party but he loved his siblings and felt very close to them. Who would give up a Purim seuda with one’s siblings and instead have a quiet seuda with one’s grandmother? Only Yehuda – his sensitivity for others was not normal, and it is even more admirable when taking his own medical issues and personal suffering into account.

    His values were true Torah values – doing mitzvos, chesed, tefilla, and learning. And so it was with every mitzva that Yehuda undertook – it was always לפנים משורת הדין. To watch Yehuda daven, was a lesson in יראת שמים. This was evident even before he was diagnosed. He always took tefilla seriously, even as a teenager. He took his learning seriously and loved learning with his chavrusa. Who could forget the siyum he made on מסכת ברכות last year – how proud we all were for him, in the face of hope that he would be the one to defeat the claws of the GBM. I offered to learn with him multiple times and he always answered the same way – he didn’t want to waste my time as we were not on the same level. His humility was also way beyond anything normal.

    So, yes, Yehuda was a chasid par excellence. He was a משפיע – he made us better. He made our tefilla have more concentration, he taught us better Jewish values, and he increased our יראת שמים. I am heartbroken and his petirah is a devastating loss to the entire family. His entire life was a קידוש השם and his petirah will result in even a bigger קידוש השם. The past few years, Yehuda maintained a blog of his experiences in dealing with his illness. Those of us who were on his distribution list, saw a glimpse of the “real” him – the appreciation for his heathcare team, the physicians, nurses and technicians, his menschlechkeit, his appreciation of his dear parents, and especially his steadfast אמונה, all the way until he finally lost his strength. It is my hope, that the family publish this blog, not only as a tribute to Yehuda, but as a chizuk and inspiration to other families ר”ל, that are, or will be, in similar circumstances and would benefit tremendously from reading how a true בן תורה and ירא שמים approaches illness and Divine obstacles.

    Mark and Judy, I am reminded of what Bruriya told R’ Meir when their 2 sons died on Shabbos. Bruriya concealed the facts until after Havdala. She asked Rebbe Meir what does one do after borrowing an object from someone. Rebbe Meir responded: they must return it. To which Bruriya revealed the details of their sons’ deaths, and informed her husband that they were returning the פקדון. The two of you raised a pure son, a קדוש וטהור. He exemplified your values and was a shining example of what it means to be raised in the Frankel home, a house of torah, a house of chesed, a house of יראת שמים. You returned him to Hashem in the same way he came into this world – as a צדיק בלא חטא.

    ה’ נתן וה’ לקח, יהי שם ה’ מבורך

    יהא זכרו ברוך

  11. David Friedman says:

    There is little at all that I can possibly say that could in any way alleviate what is enormous pain and grief. Having lost a grandson , a 2 year old,eight years ago, I can empathize perhaps in some small measure.
    My memories of you wonderful people, along with dear talmidim Yair and Yonatan are still vividly with me. May you be granted a nechama in due time.
    תתנחמו מן שמיים.
    Rabbi David Friedman DRS

  12. Howie kohn says:

    A special neshama removed from our midst much too early
    Yehuda would always the beis hakneses
    With a smile on his face even thougb he may not have feeling well
    He would always approach where i sit .extend his arm to shake my hand and with a smile wish me a Good Shabbos
    It was only a few short weeks when we greeted each other
    Then he would go to his corner on the last row and daven with unbelievable kavana
    May he be a ממליץ יושר for his family and כלל ישראל!

  13. shelley and ronnie summers says:

    Dear Judy and Mark and the entire Frankel Family:

    We are so sorry for your loss. No words can properly express our sympathy and condolences.
    Yehudah was an exemplary son, brother, friend, and so much more to everyone around him and a shining example of a true Ben-Torah. He lived his life as an example for us all.
    May you know of no more sorrow and only have true Nachas and happiness from your beautiful family.
    Shelley and Ronnie Summers

  14. Anonymous says:

    may yehuda’s neshama have a quick aliyah to heaven. may he be a refuah for am yisroel, and may hashem comfort you and your loved ones. we share your grief and hope your suffering and his has come to an end, god willing. heartfelt condolences. sharon and zvi blaustein

  15. Simcha Perkal says:

    Yehuda was able to change a room without uttering a word.
    A true leader, inspiration and Rebbe to us all.
    A walking Kiddush H’.

    I am privileged to have spent time with him
    in the Torah Center of Hillcrest,
    when we carpooled together to YTM in the late 80’s and early 90’s.
    and glad i got to see him davening and learning in YIH recently.
    I’m lucky i got to see him learning b’chavrusa in YIH;
    It was a sight to behold, with beauty grace.
    He exemplified “Deracheha darchei Noam”
    and brought peace into the world.

    He will be a meilitz Yosher for us.
    HaMakom Yenachem Eschem B’soch Shaar aveilei tzion V’yerushalayim.

  16. Anonymous says:

    We are so sorry for your loss.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you .
    Rochelle and Larry Rosenblatt

  17. Carole and Gary Eisen says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,
    We were heartbroken to hear of your terrible loss. Yehuda always caught our eye as a very special person. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time.

    Carole and Gary Eisen

  18. Joseph & Pam Gelber says:

    FRANKEL FAMILY,

    Heartfelt condolence on the loss of Yehuda, he was a lovely young man whose presence always enhanced his surroundings.

    Hamkom Yenachem eschem

  19. Avi and Rosalie Hauptman says:

    It is with great sadness and sorrow that we send you this message about you precious son. Times are hard now for the world and קלל ישראל. May he be a מליץ יושר and plead before god for the safety and peace for קלל ישראל

    תאה נשמתו צרורה בתוך החיים

  20. Hillary & Mark Spector says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,
    We are so sorry for your loss. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you.
    HaMakom Yenachem Eschem B’soch Shaar aveilei tzion V’yerushalayim.
    Hillary and Mark Spector

  21. Dinah Spitz says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,
    Words cannot properly express how sorry we are for your loss.
    Although we did not know Yehuda well, after reading what Mark’s
    brother wrote, I can see that we missed out on knowing a kind, humble,
    compassionate Ben Torah. Our thoughts are with you at this difficult
    time. May you know of no more sorrow, and may you have much
    nachas from your beautiful family.
    Dinah and Robert Spitz

  22. Aryeh Shapiro says:

    Dear Yonatan and the entire Frankel family,
    I am so sorry for your loss. As the entire klal yisroel are now separated and collectively in an “eis tzara”, we are sitting together with you btza’ar. Iy”H this should be the last tzara in klal yosroel and we should see Mashiach b’karov. HaMakom Yenachem Eschem B’soch Shaar aveilei tzion V’yerushalayim.

  23. Eli Siegel says:

    Dear Mark and Judy Frankel, Rachelle, Yonatan, Yair and all of Yehuda’s family.
    Words can not adequately express my feelings at this moment.
    The Frankels lost an amazing son and brother and uncle and grandson and cousin and nephew.
    And I lost an amazing friend and chavrusa.
    I was zocheh to learn with him for the past 3 years. What I gained from him is far more than the Torah we learned together, but rather what I learned from him.
    His name Moshe Yehuda is so apropos. Moshe because he was more humble than anyone else I ever met and Yehuda, because he was the most grateful person I ever met.
    In a similar vein to what Yehuda’s uncle said, when Nadav and Avihu passed away it says bkrovai ekadesh. G-d was sanctified in every moment of Yehuda’s life both in illness and health. Yehuda had a nisayon unlike the nisayon that many of us face in our daily lives and he accepted it and was not mad at Hashem.
    We discussed emunah and bitachon and he told me many times that emunah and bitachon does not mean you have faith that things will work out the way you wanted them to. Rather it means you accept whatever G-d sends your way and you don’t complain about it.
    Yehuda was an ish emes and made sure that when we were learning that we understood pshat as best as possible and that we shouldn’t just run through the gemara.
    To see Yehuda daven was to understand what it means to daven with proper focus.
    He was 100% honest and would never do anything that had a hint of falsehood in it.
    His dedication to his family was amazing. I remember when he organized that all his family members should spend time with his grandmother in Toronto. He did not just instruct them to do it, but he led by example spending many yomim tovim with his grandmother.
    It’s interesting that he was niftar during this mageifah. His whole life he ran away from kavod and even when he was niftar he was niftar in a way so that no one could give him the kavod that he truly deserved.
    Fortunate were we who had the privilege of learning from Yehudah.
    To the Frankel family, may Hashem give you nechama and may we be zocheh to tichiyas hameisim and to once again be reunited.

    Hamakom yenachem eschem bsoch shaar aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim

  24. Jeanette & Neil Olshan says:

    Dear Judy & Mark,
    It is with profound sadness that we offer our condolences on the petirah of your dear son, Yehuda.
    There are no words to describe the effect of this great loss. We can only offer you nechama and may Hashem grant you only Simchas from now on.
    Sincerely,
    Jeanette & Neil Olshan

  25. Kenneth Block says:

    Dear Judy & Mark,
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים
    Ken & Tzippy Block

  26. Lea & Nathan Mandel says:

    Family Frankel

    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבילי ציון וירושלים ולא תדעו לדאוה עוד.

  27. Shalom Ozarowski says:

    Dear Frankel family,

    I have not been in touch with Yehuda since we learned together in Shaalvim, but his humility and easygoing nature were definitely a דוגמא אישית for me of getting along with everybody and striving to be a true oved Hashem with all of your being.

    I will bli neder make sure to look for his kever on my next trip to Eretz HaChaim.

    May the memories and his zechuyot give you chizuk in this difficult time.

    מן השמיים תנוחמו

    Shalom Ozarowski
    Alon Shvut

  28. Marty Penn says:

    Judy and Mark,
    I cannot imagine what you are going through. May Hashem grant you comfort.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבילי ציון וירושלים

  29. Simcha & Mala Goldberg says:

    Dear Mark & Judy, Rachelle, Yair and Yonatan-
    We are so very sorry for your tremendous loss. May Yehuda be a meilitz yosher for your beautiful family and all of Klal Yisroel. Yehi Zichro Baruch.
    Simcha and Mala (Feldstein) Goldberg

  30. Chaim T. says:

    I studied at Shaalvim with your son and when I think of a truly humble, soft spoken well mannered individual, Yehuda comes to mind. May hashem comfort you and your family among the other mourners of
    zion.

  31. Toby Singer says:

    Judy and Mark,
    I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. Having read the hespedim and other comments, it is clear that Yehuda was an extraordinary individual, and I wish I had the z’chus to have known Yehudah better. May his memory be a blessing to all.

  32. shelley schmutter says:

    Beautiful and moving words from the hesped. May Yehuda be a malitz yosher for klal yisroel. So sorry for your loss.

  33. Malka & Yoseph Rotenberg says:

    Dear Mark, Judy and the whole Frankel family,
    We are so sad to hear of the passing of your dear son Yehuda. We wish you continuing strength and courage in this time of sorrow and hope that you will feel comforted by the loving support of all your friends and family.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבילי ציון וירושלים
    Malka and Yoseph Rotenberg

  34. Sherry Frenkel says:

    My heartfelt condolences to Judy and Mark and the Frankel family. Hamakom yenachem eschem bsoch avlei tzion v’Yerushalayim.
    Sherry Frenkel

  35. Flo fruchter says:

    Dearest Judy & Mark,
    There aren’t enough words that we could offer as comfort.
    From all that we heard and read Yehuda was an extraordinary son, brother and friend. May you derive comfort from this.
    Wishing you strength, and much love During this incredibly difficult time.
    Flo & Alan

  36. Josh Ross says:

    Yehuda Was a model Jew. He will be remembered for his kindness and humility. All of us who knew him, will use his memory to become better people ourselves.

  37. Josh Rosenthal says:

    To Mark , Judy and family: After hearing the very moving and inspirational Hespedim by Rabbi Schechter, Rabbi Weiss, Mark’s brother, and especially from Yonatan, I was afforded a greater glimpse and insight into your beloved Yehuda’s beautiful Neshama. I too , in my small way, can attest to these many great qualities – especially his supreme modesty, his thirst for knowledge and truth , his very giving and generous nature, and his great devotion to Hashem. What always struck me about Yehuda was his great kavana that he always exhibited while davening. I also recall that he was a regular attendee of Rabbi Schechter’s Shabbos afternoon shiurim and many times he would ask very sharp and profound questions that reflected his great intellect. Due to his great modesty, he would downplay the extent of his knowledge. I can also attest to his generosity- when he helped coordinate the shul’s App for maintaining the daily minyanim, he not only helped me to install the App on my phone, but also called several times to make sure it was working properly. He added that I could always call him with any tech problems. My heart goes out to your family upon this great loss of such a pure and sweet neshama . It leaves a great void in all who knew him, but hopefully will help inspire us all to improve and strengthen both our relationship with Hashem and with our fellow man. May he be a Melitz Yosher for the family and all Klal Yisrael.

  38. Phyllis & David Bruder says:

    Our sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved son, Yehuda. May his memory be a blessing to you and your family.

  39. Rena & Sol Gelernter says:

    Dear Judy & Mark
    We can’t imagine the pain and grief incurred by the loss of a son especially someone like Yehuda who was so committed to all the values that Judaism espouses. Having spoken many times with Yehuda I was always so impressed with his sincerity his interest in what I and my entire family was doing
    May you take comfort that in the short time Yehuda spent with us he made such a positive impact on so many people
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבילי ישראל רינה וסול גלרנתר

  40. Eliezer Williams says:

    Dear Yair and Yonatan,
    We are so sorry about your loss.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבילי ציון וירושלים ולא תוסיפו לדאבה
    עוד
    Eliezer and Penina Williams

  41. Karen & Glenn Cohn says:

    Dear Mark & Judy, Rachelle, Yair and Yonatan,
    Our heartfelt condolences on the tremendous loss of your son and brother.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

  42. Diane and Sid Lichter says:

    DearJudy and Mark and family,
    We are deeply saddened by the passing of your dear son/brother, Yehuda,z’l. Your loss is also our loss and the community’s loss. Yehuda had a super special personality, but in a very quiet and modest way. May you know no more tzaar and may you celebrate only smachot in the future. Yehuda will be sorely missed, especially at the various minyanim he attended here in Hillcrest.
    Diane and Sid Lichter

  43. Leba Nat says:

    Though I did not have the privilege of knowing your dear son, Yehuda A”H I was able learn about the kind of special person he was from the amazing Hespeidim that were given.
    HaMakom Y’nachem Etchem B’toch Sh’ar Aveilei Tzion V’yerushalim.

  44. Chaim Kogel says:

    Yair, and Frankel Family,

    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

    My heartfelt condolences to you on you loss.

    Chaim Kogel

  45. Draisel and Gaby Plaut says:

    Dear Judy and Mark
    We are so very sorry for your loss.By simply observing Yehuda it was easy to see what a quiet, humble, reserved individual he was, with wonderful midos. A true eved HaShem. May his beautiful neshama be a meilitz yosher for all of us and may you know of no more sorrow.
    Draisel and Gaby

  46. Gail and Murray Zilbering says:

    Dear Judy, Mark and family,
    We wish we had the words that could be of comfort to you. Our sincere condolences to you on this tragic loss.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

  47. Sheila Brody Langermann says:

    My sincerest condolences to Judy, Mark and the entire Frankel family. After reading all the comments and your brother’s hesped,I see what a beautiful & special young man your Yehuda was. I didn’t know him personally, but after davening for him, I felt a connection to him. I hope that the good memories that you have of Yehuda will give you chizuk and nechama at this very difficult time.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים
    XOXO

  48. Janet and Abe Feld says:

    Dear Judy, Mark, Rachelle, Yonatan and Yair
    It’s hard enough to express our condolences at a time like this in person but it’s even harder to do it remotely. Moshe Yehuda was a special person, loved and respected by all who knew him. He will truly be missed.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים
    You should have no more sorrow.

  49. Jacob Lichter says:

    Dear Frankel Family,
    Wishing you the sincerest condolences and warmest wishes from Eretz Yisrael.
    May Yehuda be a melitz yosher for you and all of klal Yisrael especially in these challenging times for the world over.
    May we all be zocheh to be reunited במהרה בביאת הגואל.
    Yaakov Lichter & Family

  50. Ari Benedict says:

    I am so saddened to hear of Yehuda’s passing. We were elementary school classmates and while we have not kept in touch, I remember clearly that he was the nicest, kindest person and only spoke positively of others. המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

  51. Etan Schnall says:

    Yehuda, as you know, was a very good friend. In his quiet, humble and modest way, he continuously impacted my life from the day I met him through today – and I am sure he will continue. I have never met someone whose very being served as a model and inspiration in so many ways, without any words needing to be said – in the way that Yehuda did. At the same time, he was an individual who contributed so much with the many insightful words and ideas he shared, whether in the realm of Torah or wisdom and in expressing his life experiences. We will miss him – the wellsprings of Emunah and Bitachon that he opened for others will continue to live on. תנצב״ה.

  52. Anonymous says:

    Dear Judy & Mark,
    We are so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing
    the beautiful hespedim which gives us a glimpse of the
    special person Yehuda was, following in the footsteps of his
    special family.
    Hamakom yinachem etchem b’toch she’ar avlei tziyon v’Yerushalayim.
    Dina & Sam Deutscher

  53. Yoni and Avrum Stein says:

    Dear Judy Mark Rachelle Yonatan Yair
    No words can properly express our sympathy and condolences for your loss.
    Yehuda was blessed with wonderful parents and siblings.
    May Hashem give you strength to get through this difficult and challenging period.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים
    May you have no more sorrow
    Yoni and Avrum Stein

  54. Barbara & Sandy Cohen says:

    Judy, Mark and family,
    Words are not adequate to express how sad we are for you at the loss of a very special son and brother. Having gone through a similar loss we cannot know your grief but know Yehuda’s sweet Neshama will be remembered by his siblings, nieces and nephews and friends for many years to come in their thoughts and deeds. May Hashem comfort you.

  55. Cookie and Alan Perry says:

    We were so terribly saddened by the news of Moshe Yehudah’s passing. We were davening for him consistently. I remember when I came to shul to drop off something on a motzei Shabbos one day this winter I saw your son davening with great kavanah even after everyone had left and you Mark were waiting for him to finish davening. I was struck by how enrapt Moshe Yehudah was and it seemed he was truly on another madrega. He was truly a pure neshama. I hope that you and Judy can find comfort in this and know that the entire hillcrest community is thinking and praying for you. May you only know naches and joy from now on.

  56. Theodore Schachar says:

    Dear Judy and Mark

    Sharon and I were saddened to hear of Yehuda’s petirah. He was a wonderful person always smiling, courteous and cordial. May your memories of him bring you comfort during this difficult time. Hamokom yenachem etchem eem shaar avlay tzion Verushalayoim. May you know of no more tzar. Love Sharon and Teddy

  57. Merry and sidney rosman says:

    Dear Judy and Marc,
    We were so sad to hear about Yehuda’s Petiira.
    Hearing the hespadim, I know his beautiful neshema will be a melitz yosher
    To his incredible parents, and all of coal yisrael…
    May Yehuda’s neshema have an Aliya, and May you only know of simchas
    All our love,,
    Merry and Sidney

  58. Haviva and Harry Peters says:

    Dear Mark and Judy, Rachelle, Yair and Yonatan,
    We find it hard to adequately express our deep sense of sadness upon the loss of your dear son and brother, Yehuda, z’l. We cannot imagine what you are going through. While we did not have the privilege of knowing Yehuda well, from all that we have read and heard about him, he was truly an extraordinary person, one blessed by HaShem with a beautiful neshama. May the time you had with him, though in no way nearly enough, bring you only wonderful memories of such a precious gift from HaShem, and may you derive comfort from those memories. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
    HaMakom yenachem etchem b’tokh she’ar aveilei Tzion ViYerushalayim.
    May you know no more sorrow and may we only share in s’machot together.
    Haviva and Harry

  59. Marcy and Sylvan Schaffer says:

    Dear Judy, Mark, and family,

    It’s hard to express in words our deep feeling of sadness at your loss of Moshe Yehuda. After hearing Rabbi Weiss and your brother talk about Moshe Yehuda, we were able to appreciate what a special and wonderful person Moshe Yehuda was.
    We can only imagine your pain and grief at this time. May Hashem comfort you at this time and may you only have ” b’sorot tovot” going forward.

    Hamakom ynachem etchem b’toch shear avlei Tzion V’yirushalaim!

  60. Irene & Saul Grysman says:

    We were very saddened to hear of Yehuda’s passing.  Reading the Hepadim was very moving and showed what an extraordinary person he was.

    Please accept our condolences in lieu of a visit.

    May Hashem Comfort the Mourners Among the other Mourners of Zion and Yerushalayim.

    May the family know no more sorrow.
    HaMakom Y’nachem Etchem B’toch Sh’ar Aveilei Tzion Virushalayim.

  61. Mark and Judy Gross says:

    Dear Judy, Mark, and Family,
    We are very sorry for your loss. Though we did not have the opportunity of knowing your son and brother, Yehuda A”H, we have learned about what a wonderful, special person he was from all the meaningful Hespedim. We hope you find comfort and strength from your good memories.
    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

  62. Louis Perlman says:

    Judy and Mark, We are terribly saddened by the loss of Yehudah. As we see from these times, Hashem sometimes works in ways that we do not understand. May Yehudah’s courage and perseverance be an inspiration to others.

    המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

    Louis and Shari Perlman

  63. Andy Lipton says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,

    I’ll always have this vision of such a sweet young man. Often I would see Mark alongside Yehuda and Yair when I would talk with Mark, and the respect your sons had for Mark was palpable.

    I wish I could ease your sadness. May you find comfort in the memories of your wonderful son. And from now on you should only celebrate simchas.

  64. Shaindy & Mike Gross says:

    Dear Mark and Judy and family,

    We are so sorry for the loss of your beloved Yehuda. Though we did not have the zechus to know him well, his uncle’s beautiful Hesped vividly illustrated what a sensitive Tzaddik and tremendous person he was. In this unprecedented Ais Tzara, may he be a Meilitz Yosher for his beautiful family, Klal Yiroel, and the entire world.

    ,המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

    Shaindy & Mike Gross

  65. Susan young says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,Irv and I are so saddened by your loss of dear Yehudah. We know that you and the entire משפחה rallied around him 24/7. May you no of no further sorrow.Sorry that we can’t be with you in person at this difficult time. המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

  66. Leah &Richard Zelkowitz says:

    Dear Judy,Mark and family,
    We were so very sorry to hear of Yehuda’s ז׳ל passing. Although we did not know Yehuda, we learned about his extraordinary Midos from the numerous hespedim. Thinking of you. המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים.
    Leah and Richard Zelkowitz

  67. Barbara Adler says:

    There are no words to express our deepest sympathy on this extraordinary loss. May all of the tehillim and tefillos that were said for Yehuda’s refuah be a zechus for his neshama. May your memories keep you strong and may you have only simchas from now on.
    המקום ינכם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלע ציון וירושלים

    Barbara (Freudenberger)& Yaakov Adler & sons

  68. Miriam and Sheldon Greenberg says:

    Dear Judy and Mark,
    We are so sorry for your loss. Yehuda was truly a gem. His goodness radiated from within, and the hespedim gave us deeper insight into the extraordinary person he was. We were zocheh to have him in our midst. May Hkb’h give you strength and a nechama at this difficult time.
    Sheldon and Miriam Greenberg

  69. Shani and Gil Winokur says:

    We are very sorry for the untimely loss of your son. Hamakom yenachem etchem b’toch sha’ar avlei tzion v’yerushalayim.
    Shani and Gil Winokur

  70. Anonymous says:

    Yonatan’s loving hesped for his brother at the kevura in Israel:

    I want to begin by stating that I am an unworthy representative of fully encapsulating who
    Yehuda was, but Hashem in His mysterious ways decided that I should be the one here in Eretz
    Yisroel while the rest of Yehuda’s rightful maspidim are in chutz la’aretz. I will do my best as the
    representative of the family to properly be maspid Yehuda. But please understand that whatever
    I share today is only a subset of Yehuda’s true character.
    The gemara at the end of Brachos relates the famous story of Rebbi Akiva and his aphorism
    that “kol d’ovid Rachmana l’tav ovid”, anything that Hashem does must be for the good. The
    immediate next line in the gemara is a cryptic statement that says: אָמַר רַב הוּנָא אָמַר רַב
    מִשּׁוּם רַבִּי מֵאִיר: לְעוֹלָם יִהְיוּ דְּבָרָיו שֶׁל אָדָם מוּעָטִין לִפְנֵי הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר:
    ״אַל תְּבַהֵל עַל פִּיךָ וְלִבְּךָ אַל יְמַהֵר לְהוֹצִיא דָבָר לִפְנֵי הָאֱלֹהִים כִּי הָאֱלֹהִים בַּשָּׁמַיִם וְאַתָּה
    עַל הָאָרֶץ עַל כֵּן יִהְיוּ דְבָרֶיךָ מְעַטִּים״
    What exactly does this mean, and what is the juxtaposition of this gemara right after the gemara
    about “kol d’ovid Rachmana l’tav ovid”?
    The Maharsha explains why these two gemaras were placed right next to each other:
    וה”נ הכא בא לומר דגם אם יבא על האדם מדת פורענות יהיו דבריו לפני הקב”ה
    מעטים בבקשת רחמים ולא ידבר בו הרבה ולא יהרהר אחריו וז”ש אל תבהל וגו’ ולבך
    אל ימהר להוציא דבר והרהור רע לפני האלהים …כי האלהים בשמים ואתה על הארץ
    והוא רואה מלמעלה ביותר שאפשר דעביד לך דבר זה לטובה וק”ל
    I can’t think of any words that would better distill Yehuda’s approach to his battle the past three
    years. Not once – not once! – did a word of complaint about why he was enduring this travail
    leave his lips. The form of cancer that he had is unique in that it almost exclusively strikes
    individuals in their 50s, 60s, or later, yet Yehuda never wondered why he was the
    one-in-a-million young person who was struck earlier. In fact, just the opposite, he would
    frequently say that Hashem was sending him this message because he hadn’t been making the
    most of his time on this world. His response to this challenge was not to complain or question,
    but to strengthen his tefillah and learning.
    Yehuda’s emunah throughout this battle has been the rock to which the rest of us have been
    anchored. We have read twice in recent weeks about the Aron HaKodesh. One of the aron’s
    unique properties was that “noseh es nos’av”, it carried the people assigned to carry it. For the
    past three years, we all tried to be there for Yehuda, but he was the one who was actually there
    for us – with his emunah, with his lack of complaining, with a smile on his face even as he was
    going through difficult treatments or being awoken from complex surgeries. Even since his
    petirah, we have learned that – unsurprisingly – the past few weeks he has been much more
    concerned about our parents than about himself. He was noseh es nos’av.
    There was another unique aspect of the Aron. The Aron HaKodesh, holding the most prized
    possessions of the Bnei Yisroel, was not kept out in public in order to awe or impress klal
    Yisroel; rather, it was kept behind a paroches, and even then it was only glimpsed once per year
    by one person. When you have something truly special, truly sui generis , you don’t parade it in
    front of everyone – you hide it behind a paroches and only let a select few have a glimpse.
    Yehuda was a treasure that should have been prized by all of klal Yisroel, but only the select
    few that got to look behind the paroches know that. Yehuda was quiet, introspective, even shy
    in public, and it would be easy to just see the curtain and not look too deeply behind it. But for
    those of us who had the opportunity – the honor – to spend time behind the paroches, we were
    fortunate enough to see and understand Yehuda’s true depths.
    I want to tell you what I saw behind the paroches:
    ● I saw a brother whose middos and interpersonal skills were such a core part of his being
    that even in the hospital, even when could no longer talk or was even fully aware of what
    was going on, would make sure to give the nurses and aids a wave or thumbs up when
    they helped him. I once read a book as a child about a king who was fatally injured in
    battle and was able to ride his horse home, since, as a master horseman, his muscle
    memory itself knew what to do. That was Yehuda, but with his middos – it was so
    inculcated in him that even as he drifted in and out of consciousness, his body itself
    made sure to thank everyone around him.
    ● I saw a brother whose humility was so advanced that it was arguably a handicap for him.
    I never heard Yehuda brag or even imply that he was particularly good at any skill or
    task. And while for some people, you could chalk that up to the fact that they weren’t
    actually good at anything, with Yehuda it was true even when he excelled at something.
    In order to graduate YU, he had to take a final exam in his major – psychology. After a
    week or two of not getting his grade back, he began to research how to take it again,
    assuming that he had failed. When he finally called the registrar’s office to schedule it,
    they laughed and told him he had in fact received the highest score on the exam. The
    same was true with many of his other talents – his humility wasn’t just a shield, he
    somehow truly believed that he was not worthy of any praise.
    ● I saw a brother with infinite patience who never got angry, period. He could get annoyed
    – particularly when people would act in ways he found inappropriate, whether it was
    talking in shul or throwing their trash on the floor. But his patience was legion. I
    remember one time he came to visit us in Philadelphia and one of my friends came over,
    exasperated that one of his sons had once again broken his glasses, and jokingly
    threatened some draconian punishment. Yehuda looked at him and in all seriousness
    asked, “have you ever thought of sitting him down and explaining why you find his
    behavior troubling and asking him nicely to stop?”. My friend and I laughed at the sheer
    innocence of Yehuda’s comment, but that’s who he was – understanding that even small
    children are worth talking to and being reasoned with, if only you spent the time doing
    so.
    ● And finally, I saw a brother who was kulo emmes. Rav Dessler famously discussed the
    “nekudas habechirah”, that each individual has a point in their avodah that they struggle
    with. For many of us, there may be a time where we need to struggle to tell the emmes.
    Not so with Yehuda; Yehuda was so kulo emmes that he could not even understand the
    other tzad; there was the correct way, and…that was it, there was no other way. This
    middah colored his whole outlook on life… He wasn’t driven by the same lusts for
    possessions or recognition or money that drive many. Nor did he care – not one iota, not
    even a passing curiosity – if someone else was rich or famous. All he cared about was if
    they were a good person. He saw emes not just in the sense of true or false, but in the
    sense of what truly matters in life. And while I do not understand and likely will never
    understand why Hashem decided that Yehuda’s time in olam hazeh was up, I just keep
    thinking that someone who is an ish Emes belongs in the olam ha’emes
    But simply describing Yehuda’s many middos risks painting him as one-dimensional. Yehuda
    was primarily a wonderful, loving son, grandson, brother, nephew, uncle, cousin, and friend.
    Thanks to his sweetness and gentleness, he had a special ability to endear himself to anyone
    that got to know him. He was creative, as evidenced by his culinary skills and annual mishloach
    Manos, and he was fun to be around, but in a meaningful way. Conversations with him weren’t
    about people or gossip; they were about interesting ideas, issues, or thoughts he had. If I think
    of a single mental image that best encapsulates Yehuda, it would be him baking with his nieces
    and nephews: incredibly patient even as they are ignore his directions; incredibly exacting as he
    would weigh each ingredient on his precision scale; and with a big smile on his face as he got to
    spend time with the people he cared about the most.
    The gemara at the beginning of Brachos brings down a machlokes about whether or not a meis
    can hear what goes on in this world, but the rishonim later in the mesechta seem to pasken that
    certainly before kevura, a meis can hear what is being said. So Yehuda I want you to hear a
    few things:
    First is that if you were organizing this levaya, it would be almost exactly like this: kept very
    small, with just family and close friends and without troubling lots of people to attend. However,
    I know that you would also want me to thank everyone that helped you:
    ● Dr. Kreizel & the entire medical team, including friends and community members, who
    worked above and beyond the call of duty to lovingly care for you
    ● Chavrusas – Elie Seigel, who learned with Yehuda almost every day, and many of the
    local rabbanim, who made time in their busy schedules to come once or twice a week.
    You were his lifeline the past few years and he cherished every moment spent learning
    with you.
    ● Family and friends that have helped us through the past few years and in particular over
    the past few weeks. I don’t want to name anyone as I will inevitably leave someone out,
    but without any exaggeration I say that I do not know how we would have made it
    through the trauma if not for all the hugs and kind words and rides and meals.
    ● Mommy and Daddy. Anytime I spoke with Yehuda privately about how he was doing the
    past few years, he would always talk about how lucky he was to have you both. Daddy,
    you were a one-man warrior on Yehuda’s behalf. Until Yehuda’s last breath, there was
    no challenge that could not be overcome by the sheer force of your willpower and love
    for your children. I can’t imagine there are too many patient’s fathers who are now on a
    first-name basis with the CEO of their son’s health insurance carrier. Mommy, your quiet
    strength and ability to take everything in stride gave the rest of the family a sense of
    calm and normalcy despite the turmoil around us. As I’ve been joking to some family
    members, I don’t know what they put in the water of Yekke households, but maybe the
    rest of us should drink some more of it.
    ● And finally, I want to thank Hashem. I want to thank Hashem for giving us 38 years of
    knowing and loving you. I want to thank Hashem for the kindness that even as he took
    you away from us, he did it slowly and gradually, allowing time to adjust and cope and
    make the most of our time together. And I want to thank Hashem for the fact that even
    as He took you, He did it with a kiss – on leyl Shabbos, without pain, and with your
    parents holding your hand.
    Yehuda, the second thing I want to tell you is that I am sorry and I ask mechila for taking you for
    granted. You were so easygoing and helpful that I took it for granted that you were always the
    one rearranging your schedule to come visit, or bringing gifts for the kids, or arranging family
    events. I should have been better about asking you what you needed, or how I could help you,
    or thinking of gifts for you. I took your generosity for granted. I ask mechila for that and for any
    other things I may have done or said to you that hurt you or cause harm.
    The third thing I want to tell you is that I will always miss you and think about you. I’m sure time
    will blunt the pain but it will never plug the hole in my heart. Whenever we get together as a
    family, we will miss you terribly. Or, better yet, whenever I’m setting the Shabbos table and
    think it’s ok that the cutlery is slightly askew, I will think of you looking down at me and make
    sure that I straighten everything out.
    Lastly – and don’t worry, I will wrap this up, since you hated drawn-out speeches – I ask you to
    be a meilitz yosher. You spent your whole life practicing how to give to and help the people you
    love; now you’ve graduated to doing it on a more cosmis scale. The mishna in Pirkei Avos says
    Kol sheruach habryios nocheh heimenu, ruach hamakom nocheh heimenu, “He who is pleasing
    to man, is pleasing also to G-d” . You were exceedingly pleasing to man, and I’m sure you will
    have a special place right near Hashem. Please be a meilitz yosher for your family, friends,
    and particularly now, for all of klal yisroel.
    Yehe zichro baruch

  71. Joyann says:

    Dear Judy and Mark.
    I am truly heartbroken to hear of your loss of your Precious son. There are no words for this pain
    My prayers are with you and your family every day to stay strong thought this horrific time
    Joyann

  72. Joie Yablon says:

    Judy and Mark
    Words can’t express our sorrow over the loss of Yehuda. May his memory be a blessing to all and know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

    Warren and Joie Yablon

  73. Alan Bergman says:

    Dear Mark and Judy,
    Although I never had the privilege of knowing Yehuda, I did get to know you. We’ve known each other for almost 25 years and knowing who you are, in many respects, I am sure has given me a glimpse of who Yehuda was that is to say a loving, selfless, and extraordinary person who Loves G-d and wanted to please Him.
    My sincerest condolences in this most difficult time.
    Alan Bergman

  74. Alex says:

    Judah was the most incredible human being I had ever met. He was kind, considerate and would always go out of the way to help. I will miss him terribly…..

  75. Nadine & Jubilee Fox says:

    Dear Judy, Mark and family
    My heart goes out to you at this time. Yehuda’s middos do seem a reflection of the family values he was brought up with. The pebbles that you are cause ripples amongst your children and grandchildren. May you be given strength and comfort at this time and always.

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